The Famous Benebus!!

 The brow waxing area!!

 A lovely selection of Benefit cosmetics!!

 Benebus!!

 Make Upper!!

 Raising funds and awareness!!!

 The team getting ready for more Make Uppers

 Inspirational Message Board!!

 Make Uppers!!!

 Last Make Upper of the day event!!

So. . . it's that time of year again. No, not Christmas or even Paddy's Day, I'm talking about the time when colleges feel the need to give to charity. This magical week is known as RAG week, in order to raise as much as possible they create the  most ludacris and random events and challenges for it's students who participate wholeheartedly and in the case of most, drunkenly. Every year colleges throughout Ireland raise vast amounts for charity, though there is often many a drunken casualty and people outside of the college system tend to focus on the negative aspects of RAG week rather than the positive meaning of the event. RAG week stands for Raising And Giving week, though in UL it's been re-publicised as Charity Week.

 One charity that is working hard within the college system is Women's Aid. www.womensaid.ie . They aim to promote the awareness of Domestic Violence among young women so that they can spot the signs of an abusive relationship and so that young men don't become an abusive partner. Women's Aid have partnered up with the popular make-up brand Benefit, http://www.benefitcosmetics.com, to promote the cause.  The two have embarked upon a campus tour to canvas the campuses of Ireland seeking donations, minimum of €2, and in exchange they are offering the students make uppers and for €5 you can get your brows waxed.

The team were recently on UL campus with the Benebus where they offered make uppers and brow waxing to the women of UL, seeing as the men graciously declined the offers. During the day the team were out and about promoting the evening event, waxing and beautifying the women of UL while also raising funds for Women's Aid. In the evening they held a very popular event with champaign and cupcakes, the best way to put a smile on a woman's face :) During thee event guests were given the opportunity to not only receive make uppers and waxes but there were competitions,games and a talk was given about Women's Aid.

The Benebus will be hitting a campus near you soon!!!

Be careful what you wish for

So the phrase be careful what you wish for has been thrown around a lot in my life, more often that not it has been said by me to others though now, I am thinking it to myself.

I finally had the guy I am mad about admit how he feels about me (and yes it is the same), but he claims that he cant remember saying it because he was drunk, though he knows that I know him for 10 years and know that he only talks about personal things when he has been drinking and when it is bubbling up inside him for so long he's about to explode.

He says one thing yet we are both aware he means something more though he is not willing to commit for some unknown reason. He is the type of guy that though we argue like cats and dogs we are also always there for each other.

torn between two men

Ok! Wow been awhile! just to catch you up I broke up with the insensitive bastard who had relationship and commitment issues as well as truth issues and he was about as phased by it as I was :P I then went out with some friends of a friend and wound up being hit on by a guy I used to fancy, now we have been texting awhile but I just don't know what I think of him. I mean he seems genuine yet who knows these days. Then add on top of this the guy I work with who  I have amazing chemistry with yet I just don't know, I mean it's never a good idea to get involved with someone you work with, been there done that and got the t-shirt. Though, in saying that if it happened I wouldn't exactly say no but then what  do I do? Do I wait around and see IF something will happen with this guy and IF it does then what? Work mixing with personal life never ends well in any experiences I know of; and  what about this friend of a friend? Do I take a chance and go for it? Do I wait around and see what happens and just go with the flow? Or should I weigh up the options, especially as  I know for a fact that he is on the rebound and we are two very different people most of the time. Don't get me wrong we get on well and have a laugh but can two people who are as different as us work if it was given the chance? To me it needs further insight and thought.

How to choose between two men. . .

It is the situation that every women dreams of having, yet in reality it is possibly one of the hardest decisions a girl will have to make in relation to her love life. What do you do if you happen to find yourself in such a predicament? Most gossip sites and magazines would say to sit down and think long and hard about it, which I guess is right but how long is too long? Men wont wait around forever especially when they get the feeling that you are not fully invested in them. There is only so long someone will wait for a chance. Yes, it is not a decision that you can decide well if it doesn't work out with Mr A then I can always fall back on Mr B. To make the decision you have to figure out which one you would rather spend time with, having fun with, the one who treats you right and makes you feel good about yourself. If both of them do that, well I can just  say good luck to you and just follow your instincts. Listen to your gut and hey if it's wrong it's wrong but what is meant to happen will happen.

What do you do when your partner loses someone? Honestly there is nothing you can do but let them know you are there and will listen if they want to talk, cuddle when they want/ you think they need it and just be there for them in general. Everyone copes with loss in different ways some want to be left alone while others feel the need to be closer to those they love and all you can do is allow your partner to grieve as they wish and in time things will go back to normal, whether you are feeling suffered by them or ignored by them.

Distance

Men and women are completely different, yet when it comes to the question of distance we are essentially the same. Both like to know that the other is thinking about them while they are separated, and all this takes is a little text of a call just once even (depending on the length of separation time). Women like to know that they were missed and can tell this without the man having to say it. We're just that good! :P Yes a little present does go a long way in these situations but all in all let us know that you were thinking of us while you were away and this goes for women too, men like to know you missed them just as much as you like to know they missed you BUT not all men are smart enough to notice the extra x's put at the end of a text or the tone of your voice that to you screams I MISS YOU!!!, sometimes you just have to spell it out and tell them!

Boys, Men and women

This is mainly focused on Irish boys/men as in my experience the males of other counties seem to know how to win the females over and how to keep them interested and happy!

Firstly guys we DO NOT like it when you come up behind us and grab us in a nightclub, unless you are our boyfriend. It is not how to make us feel appreciated or wanted or attractive! It is a crude and disgusting way to get a girl to kiss you. It makes us feel like we are nothing but a pair of tits in a short dress! OK! yes we do often go along with this as we KNOW that this is the ONLY way that Irish guys know how to get girls! Well listen up and I'll tell you how girls really want to be won over by you.

We like to feel like you want more than just getting you leg over/getting it in, we want to feel like, yes you like how we look but that you also want to get to know us a little bit so that you can like us for who we really are rather for how we can make ourselves appear. I hate to tell you this boys but LOOKS CAN BE DECEIVING!!!! The girl who is in the smallest skirt and who is dancing the dirtiest dance isn't always going to be the "sure thing" more often than not she is the girl who has the most insecurities to hide.

Women like to be treated like women not like sexual objects. . . unless were having sex but that is a different story! We like to be taken care of, brought out to dinner, to the movies. We like to feel like you are proud that your with us and that you want to show us off to the world. Introduce us to your friends, if things are getting serious, if the L BOMB has been dropped by one or both of you then introduce us to the family, I mean after saying "I LOVE YOU" it's about time that we meet the family!

Women do like to be treated to dinner and the movies and yes most girls love jewellery and flowers and chocolates but here's what most guys DON'T KNOW. . . we LOVE the little sentimental gifts even more! Things like going to the park to just be together and maybe have an ice cream (if it's sunny) or split a bag of chips, or gift wise find out what your girl likes before you buy her a present and if she knows that you have put some thought into it you will reap the rewards!

What's it all about!?!?!

Well it's been awhile but to catch you up on a few things I found out that my so called boyfriend is like the leopard and can't change his spots! I text him asking him to meet me that something had happened and I just needed him, I had just found out that one of my friends( who isn't your typical girl), may have lost her virginity, you know that feeling-woman's intuition or whatever they call it- but she didn't tell us, proving she doesn't trust us not to tell any one or even to explain a few things to her. It seems so trivial a thing but it just gets to you! But anyways he said he would meet me and as gay as it sounds I felt a bit better, I thought he was finally showing me that he did really care for me :) BUT hours later when my friends and I were heading to town to go out, and might I add he lives in town so could have walked 2 steps to meet me, he hadn't turned up. So I told him where we were going and asked could he still meet me and got no reply ALL NIGHT!!!! So I got  very very drunk and 12 drunk texts later about it STILL NO REPLY!!! and so now he is supposedly in England visiting family. Still no text from him but I am so pissed off and believe that he has shown EXACTLY how much he "cares" for me and that he has proved himself a liar! that I was right and he was only saying what he thought I wanted to hear!

So, now the question is do I follow my gut and just break up with him??? Or do I wait and see what excuse he gives or if he even bothers to give one??? To be honest if anyone got a text saying something happened I really need you and they did care about someone they would come no matter what!!!

Am I just a fool???  Can there be a reason for the no show and the silence??? Or is it just better if I cut my losses as I know that there are plenty of more fish in the sea???