What do you do when your partner loses someone? Honestly there is nothing you can do but let them know you are there and will listen if they want to talk, cuddle when they want/ you think they need it and just be there for them in general. Everyone copes with loss in different ways some want to be left alone while others feel the need to be closer to those they love and all you can do is allow your partner to grieve as they wish and in time things will go back to normal, whether you are feeling suffered by them or ignored by them.